The first piece I ever wrote about was “Let’s talk about sex”. And I recently spoke about this on the ‘’Youth Affair” show on Yarona fm. I must say, this topic got a lot of different views from different people.
Some were confused as to why I had written about this and some were even amazed that I knew something about sex. This I must say proved the fact that people are indeed ignorant about certain issues. You don’t need to be sexually active to know that sex exists, after all it is included in the school curriculum.
Anyway I asked a few people what they thought was the right age to have sex, if at all it is about age.
Is there something like the right age to have sex?
It’s doesn’t depend on age, it depends on the physical make up of an individual. Some girls mature earlier than expected so it’s all about the physical, mental and emotional make and if you understand and know fully what sex entails, then and only then can you think you are ready to have sex.
Do you think that parents contribute to kids having sex too early?
Even if parents talk about it to their kids, the society has the most influence. Parents might be open with us but you may find that our friend’s upbringing is different to ours, so they end up influencing us to do things that we were initially told not to do.
The family just guides you on how to survive and live in the society. Whether you take their advise or not is dependent on you. So in a nut shell I don’t think parents have any influence whatsoever.
When do you think is the right age to have sex?
There’s never right age. However, you should be above 16 to even consider having sex. You should be ready mentally and emotionally. When having sex you shouldn’t have second thoughts, if you do then you should know that it’s not the right time.
One thing you should know is that your partner should not push you, he/she should understand when you say no. But if your partner forces themselves on you then know that they just want to use you.
What do you think about waiting for marriage until you have sex?
It depends on an individual and again marriage is meant for some people and sadly others are not ever going to get married so should they deny themselves sex all in the name of marriage? No! Sex is a beautiful thing, it connects two people in love, it strengthens relationships including marriages. So if you are in love and ready then go for it. But remember safety first.
Is there anything like the right age to have sex?
It’s not about age, if you feel like you are ready and mature enough then do it. Don’t just do it because it’s the “in thing” and because everyone is doing it.
If you absolutely think you are with the right person then I say go for it. But if you feel like you want to do it and your conscience is against it then don’t do it. Don’t do it for someone else, it should be from within. Know that one’s virginity cannot be taken back, once it’s gone it’s gone.
What do you think about waiting for marriage?
Most people who think like this are either Christians or Muslims. It doesn’t apply to all, what about those who are not religious.
It’s unfortunate that other people are not going to get married and others just don’t want to get married. Some people just want to be in serious relationships and have kids but they just don’t want to get married.
The world has changed, there are a lot of fantastic single parents who have done a great job raising their kids. Some even raise brighter and well behaved kids than married couples.. Remember to listen to Yarona fm this coming Sunday and let’s talk about issues that affect you and me.