Yesterday I had a chance to catch up with some of my school mates from Lobsec and it is amazing how they have all turned out well…literally! They have grown into respectable professionals, mothers and wives! Did I mention movers and shakers and surely going places? I am proud of them and I know our high school teachers will be impressed and claim them as a shinning! As the conversations were going from BMD, BDP, BCP, BNF, their husbands, jobs, their children the ever sizzling money matters came up! As far as the married camp is concerned, the single life is cheap to maintain. As usual, I tried to listen carefully to both sides to make an obviously subjective opinion! The married life they say is too expensive, particularly now that food , petrol , school fees , interest rates are fashionably expensive! They believe that mepako and the almost every weekend kiddies birthdays make it worse! I looked with amazement as all of these married Lobsec gals where recently single but suddenly they talked like they were born married or something. It sounded like they slept, woke up and oops ‘I am married’! All this time. This is my take on it, single life is bloody expensive! Marriage, unattractive as it has been alluded to seems like a viable option. Single life is full of pretence and is normally unsustainable. Anything that is not sustainable is bound to be costly, haphazard in implementation and short lived. Marriage on the other hand is realistic, planned and long term all being equal. Talk about the high cost of petrol for example. Single life involves excessive expenditure on petrol. Moving from one prospect to another on the lookout for opportunities can involve hours and hours of driving around town. When you do get lucky then the real project costs of transporting the ‘trophy’ around town from point A to B, picking them up, dropping off, or following each other around in case they are mobile to meeting places etc. When you marry, you go to a party or church together, one car, one trip and once off. You are sorted. Entertainment when single is the real killer. It is so expensive to take a young lady out nowadays simply because most of them can afford a good meal themselves. Therefore a young lad is forced to be innovative all the time. This can be a costly exercise. I think this is where the confusion is from my Lobsec ladies. Their husbands might have dined and wined them whilst courting but after marriage most will agree that these outings have significantly reduced. Like I said is viable. If you cannot afford the dining and wining just propose marriage , you will be sorted.