I have noticed something disturbing that happens in some marriages. Some people don’t stick to their vows so they end up divorcing which is sad of course. But hey, if it’s for the best then who am I to judge?
People divorce for a lot of reasons but of recent infidelity seems to be one reason that causes a lot of divorces. It’s a pity that some people can’t stick to only their husbands and wives. I wonder what it is that we young ones are supposed to learn from this.
I’m not married and there are no wedding bells for me anytime soon. I still have a long way to go. But I do know something though about marriage, ga se matshamekwane (it’s not about playing house) and again one needs to be both mentally and emotionally prepared.
I know a lot of people feel they ready mentally and emotionally and again they think they are ready to stick to one person but once they marry or have been in a marriage for years, everything changes. Lets not forget that some people just say they have fallen out of love with their partners. So I guess you could say that marriage is also a very complicated thing.
You see as young as I am there’s something that I find intriguing about these cases of infidelity. A lot of people say that ke fetilwe ke tlhaloganyo, (I am way beyond my thinking age) this is not true it’s just that I’m a very realistic person and I think a lot. Anyhow, now we know that there has been a lot of suing going on around lately because of acts of infidelity. Most ladies sue their husbands’ mistresses for marriage-wrecking which I find confusing really. I just don’t understand why the mistresses get sued because the husband allowed the cheating to go on. If anyone deserves to be sued it should be the cheating husband. He should be sued for wasting the poor wife’s time and for wasting the time of the priest who married the two. I mean, it’s not like the man was forced to cheat, even if the mistress had approached the man, he had the power to refuse but he didn’t.
What makes me laugh even more is that most of the time the men pay for the mistresses. These ladies never pay a dime, and at time the man even gets a loan to pay for their mistresses. So really I’ve never understood the point of suing. I’m not saying I condone cheating, I’m just saying that men need to be held entirely responsible for their mischievous behaviour. If women keep on suing other ladies what is the boy child supposed to learn from this? That it’s okay to cheat because you won’t be found responsible, only the mistress!
I have noticed that this even happens to us young people. When you catch your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating, you run straight to your partners’ person. Instead of you attacking your boyfriend or girlfriend, you attack the third party.
With all of this happening, it’s no wonder youngsters are acting the way they do now, it’s because of the things that we see happening. What are we expected to learn from this? Remember guys cheating aint ayoba!