It’s very easy to see it in his eyes if he truly loves you; it’s also in the way he treats you…in what he says and how he says it, in what he does and how he does it.
Someone who doesn’t love you is just as easy to spot; he will never put aside enough time to spend with you; he’ll always be in a rush and is likely to do the disappearing act for long periods of time, and eventually, will disappear for good! If he’s a leech sponging on you, he might succeed in keeping up the pretence for a while because of the freebies, but even the world’s greatest pretender can’t pretend forever and is bound to slip up.
If he’s a liar, his lies will soon catch up with him; before long, he’ll start to be very evasive…most of the time he won’t give you any straight answers…he may look and act uncomfortable, and if he dares say “I love you” he most probably won’t even be able to make eye-contact when he says it.
These signs are always there if you just take time to be a little more observant, but sometimes women are in denial and prefer to overlook the tell-tale signs even when these are right before their eyes.
For more on how you can really tell whether or not your guy loves you, here is an adapted list of 10 signs compiled by Lashon Fryer, Demand Media:
10 Signs That He Loves Me
In some relationships, you can just feel that your man loves you. Yet, because love is an emotion, it has the ability to cloud your judgment. Finding out those important ways that men show love help you know if he’s in it for your heart.
He partakes in your favorite pastime even though he hates it. For example, he may hate to shop, but you, on the other hand, could live in a mall. To please you, he grits his teeth into a smile and goes shopping to make you happy.
HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL
He makes you feel like you are the only one that matters by doing special things for you. According to Andre Cross, a relationship correspondent for the website Ask Men, when a man tries to romance you with things like soft music, candles or a massage, it is his way of showing you that he really cares.
HE CARES ABOUT YOU
He asks how you are doing and genuinely cares about the answer. If he loves you, not only will he check in with you, but also he will listen to you.
YOU’RE A PRIORITY
When you become a priority in his life instead of an option, he loves you. For example, he not only spends time with you when his friends are busy, but also makes you a priority in his life.
If he calls you often just to show that you are consuming his thoughts, he loves you. If a man is not into you, he’s not going to be into calling you. The only reason a man won’t take a few minutes to call you is if you are not on his mind, according to Greg Behrendt, the author of “He’s Just Not That Into You.”
YOU’RE INCLUDED IN HIS FUTURE
Everyone has a plan, so if you are included in that two- to five-year plan, he loves you. In addition, if he constantly makes statements like “When we buy our dream home,” as opposed to “When I purchase my dream home,” he sees you in his future.
YOU ARE NOT A SECRET
He loves you if he has introduced you to his friends, parents and other family members. When a man shares your relationship with other people, it means he wants you to be a part of his entire life.
HE FIXES THINGS
A loving man attempts to fix the problem when something is wrong. According to Steve Harvey, the author of “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” if you approach your boyfriend with a “situation that is fixable” but he does not try to fix the problem, the man does not love you.
If your boyfriend goes out of his way to assist you out of problems such as car trouble, without your even asking, he loves you. Men that love their partners do acts of service for them. Many men show love by providing and protecting those they care for.
HIS EYES TELL YOU
A man may not tell you he loves you 10 times a day, but his actions might. He loves you if his eyes light up when you walk into the room or if he tries to quickly look away after you catch him staring lovingly at you.