I had a little chat with my friend a few days back and boy what an interesting chat it was. Seeing that at the time valentines’ day was getting closer we just happened to talk about well, you know relationships of nowadays. We all know that these days go “becha” is a must when you are in a relationship especially when you are a guy. Now the catchiest part about this is that the guy will shower you in gifts, take you out and buy you airtime every week. But then a month or two down the line, the gifts start reducing, the dates become no more and airtime reduces to once a month… This I must say amazes me and I must say I never really understand why this happens.
So I asked a guy friend of mine to explain why this happens and I was indeed informed that guys actually do this unconsciously. Now at the beginning, when the guy wants to make you his, he penetrates through your life by buying you these gifts and spoiling you, the whole idea is to make you feel like you are a princess. And once you guys start officially dating he still spoils you to make you settle in the relationship. But 2 or 3 months into the relationship, the guy relaxes and cuts down on everything as there’ll be no reason for him to try impress you because well, he now has you. As for the gifts, you now get them only on your birthday or once in 8 months and with Valentine’s Day, you’ll now hear things like “I don’t need to buy you gifts just to show you that I love you” or “We celebrate our love everyday, everyday is our valentines’ day”.
Same applies to the calls and sms’s that you’ll get during the course of your relationship. When the relationship is new you’ll exchange 20 text messages a day, 6 -10 calls a day, 2 hours calls e.t.c. But within a month it reduces to 5 messages a day, 3 calls a day ( 1 for good morning, the other for how’s your day going and the last one for goodnight), mind you the duration of these calls would have also reduced to 10 minutes. From 2 hours to 10 minutes! Wow! What a change… And of course another 2 weeks or so, you’ll receive a call in 2 days and maybe a sms everyday. Everything just reduces but you will not be able to notice this because it’s done gradually, you’ll only realize this when you sit down and actually take a short trip down memory lane, only then will reality click and you’ll have the shock of your life. You all know what I’m talking about akere? Yah ne, matlhotlhapelo ruri.
Mind you guys, this doesn’t mean your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or whatever you want to call them, has stopped ‘’loving’’ you, it just means they no longer have to prove that they do love you anymore. They are safe and secure as they have you, so yea, ga go tlhokafale gore ba kgaphe sethito ba re ba leka go go charma.
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