Thursday, May 26, 2016

Mma Mosojane's Traditional Wisdom

Mma Mosojane's Traditional Wisdom

Which way Botswana?

  Culturally when a woman was in labour it was a big deal. Apart from the midwives ensuring the safe arrival of new life, there would...

A daughter for sale

  The young girl sat, crouched against the cold, waiting for me at the kgotla on a chilly winter morning, was a distressing sight. Even before...

Money doesn’t talk – it swears

  The Celebration of Botswana’s Independence has just passed, and after 48 years of self-rule Ifeel compelled to take a look at what is left...

A woman’s pain

  Much of my work at the customary court has been concerned with the administration of justice and the principals of fair play. Looking back I...

A hand in the dark

  ‘The world is my church. To do good my religion,’ is theinscription to be found on SeretseKhama's burial place on a hilltop in Serowe. I...

The garden of conflict

  As court president it has been my duty to see that justice is done and determine what is right, wrong and fair. But one person’s...

Love’s labour’s lost

  At the confluence of two flooded rivers, when the mighty waters converge into one, there is an explosion of water that threatens to sweep...

The altar of self sacrifice

  Whilst the passion killing of a married woman makes the front page of this week’s issue, another kind of married woman’s sacrifice is the...

Almost a wife

  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. As early as...

When elephants collide

  ‘When two elephants fight, the grass suffers,’ is an African truism I have seen played out in many situations at the kgotla. The proverb goes...

The sword of freedom and wisdom of Solomon

  It has been my duty as a court president to find a ‘happy medium’ between the two Freedom could be described as a double-edged sword...

The issue of refundable lobola

  I remember seeing a sign in a shop selling delicate glass ornaments that read: ‘Please ask for assistance. If you BREAK it, we consider it...

The absence of fathers

  “Why after all these years do you emerge to mess up my life?” If Mpaya had kept a register of the times she had seen...

Reaping the whirlwind

  “As long as I live he will never see my child ever again” “The modern generation may have all things, but they lack wisdom, purpose...

Born to be poor

The time it takes to make a baby is the time it takes to make a cup of tea. But for many women motherhood...

CONSULTING A TRADITIONAL HEALER CAN SERIOUSLY DAMAGE YOUR MARRIAGE

When I first started my column two years ago people asked me why I was writing for the ‘Thokolosi’ paper as The Voice has...

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

Throughout history women have been thought of as the ‘weaker sex,’ and whilst this might be true in an arm wrestling contest, the fact...

A TALE OF OUR TIMES

Over the years at the kgotla I have acquired the status of a village grandma or favourite aunt because traditionally young people trust such...

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

Throughout history women have been thought of as the ‘weaker sex,’ and whilst this might be true in an arm wrestling contest, the fact...

ELUSIVE JUSTICE

A quick look at our ancestors' life styles reveal that boys graduated from playing with mud cows to rearing real cows and using them...

THE RESERVED DUNG

There is a Setswana expression which goes “kgomo ga e ke ntsha boloko jotlhe”.  In real life it means that people will only divulge a...

TRAPPED IN ABUSE

Traditionally our society was driven by deep rooted values of righteousness and peace at all levels and this was sustained by a firm belief...

DISCOVERING A SKELETON IN THE CLOSET

‘A secret source of shame, potentially ruinous if exposed, which a person or family makes efforts to conceal,’ is the dictionary definition of the...

DIVIDED BY UNFORGIVENESS

Back in the 60’s British Prime Minister Harold Macmillian spoke about the ‘wind of change blowing through this continent.’ Whilst his speech to the South...

SHARED CUSTODY – A LOVE DIVIDED

In judgments involving shared custody I have often needed the Wisdom of Solomon to guide me at the customary court. Sadly there have been times...

WHO IS DAD?

A question that crosses generations Amongst the presents and hugs that greeted last week’s Father’s Day celebrations, there are many who would have marked the...

THE VOICE OF THE DEAD

In most African languages there is an expression to the effect that the voice of the dead must be respected. This seems to explain why...

LOVE, GREED AND FAILING TRADITIONS

Most African cultures strived to maintain justice and peace in the family by taking care of women and children. There are quite a number of...

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

One of the principals of customary law is the expectation that it will conform to morality as understood by ordinary folk.  There are times however...

THE LIFE AND TIMES OF AN ANGRY HUSBAND

As a child of the 60’s I am reminded of a popular protest song back in the day entitled, “The Times they are a’...

MOTHERHOOD NOT FOR COWARDS

Perhaps one of the hardest calculations to balance is the mother + father = child equation. As I share with you this week’s customary court...

LOOKING AFTER NUMBER ONE

Traditionally parents believed that their children would always be part of them – sharing a life where support and love would flow to all...

TURNING TO FACE THE CHANGE

I am convinced that  “change” is the most elusive and difficult thing to manage.   We live in a fast changing world but somehow nothing...

MA MOSOJANE’S TRADITIONAL WISDOM

Although SA president Jacob Zuma has done his best to reverse the trend, it was only during the colonial era that plural marriage was...

A DEEPER SHADE OF SOUL

“A nation without a culture is a nation without a soul,” is an often-repeatedslogan inspired by Sir SeretseKhama’s famous declaration back in 1970. And whilst...

LEFT HOLDING THE BABY

ASSESSING THE DAMAGE – A QUESTION OF PERSPECTIVE When affixing the label ‘Discrimination Against Women’ I sometimes wonder if the tag can be used to...

THE REALITY OF LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

INSTANT LOVE -INSTANT INFECTION MARCH is designated as the month of Youth Against HIV/AIDS and forms part of the government’s prevention strategy in a business...

STANDING UP FOR WOMAN’S RIGHTS

EQUALITY BEGINS IN THE HOME LAST week International Woman’s Day was celebrated around the world with other events to mark the economic, political and social...

THE INSIGNIFICANT OATH

MARRIAGE VOWS AND BROKEN PROMISES I once heard the comment that political promises are much like marriage vows. They are made at the beginning of the...

WHEN LOVE AND MARRIAGE BECOME UNCOMFORTABLE BEDFELLOWS

You might have heard me in a panel discussion on national radio last week in a series of stimulating and at times heated debates...