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Why is everybody suddenly so angry?

Why is everybody suddenly so angry?

Mar. 28 | Marcus Aurelius (Roman Emperor 161 AD to 180 AD) once stated “How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.” This is what I ask myself in this week’s column when confronted with angry parents whose own bad behaviour...

What love got to do with it?

What love got to do with it?

Mar. 7 | “In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” The famous 19th century German philosopher, cultural critic, poet and composer Friedrich Nietzche said that more...

MA MOSOJANE’S TRADITIONAL WISDOM

MA MOSOJANE’S TRADITIONAL WISDOM

Feb. 28 |  “Why after all these years do you emerge to mess up my life?” If Mpaya had kept a register of the times she had seen her dad, he would have been marked as ‘absent’ for all but a few weeks of her 16 years. She could also count on one...

REAPING THE WHIRLWIND

REAPING THE WHIRLWIND

Feb. 21 | “As long as I live he will never see my child ever again” “The modern generation may have all things, but they lack wisdom, purpose and authenticity and they will reap a whirlwind.” The comment came as it often did from the old man who was an...

BORN TO BE POOR

BORN TO BE POOR

Feb. 14 | The time it takes to make a baby is the time it takes to make a cup of tea. But for many women motherhood can lead to a lifetime of poverty and regret – an unholy trinity of pregnant, single and living with HIV/AIDS. When Chensha walked into my...

FREE TO LIVE

FREE TO LIVE

Jan. 24 | Do unto them before they do unto you Evidently, there is an emerging generation of individuals whose character is determined by the harsh environment of the 21st century. The recent years have exposed youth to either affluence beyond measure or to turbulent...

IS THERE ANYTHING WRONG IN SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN?

IS THERE ANYTHING WRONG IN SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN?

Jan. 17 | My first column of the New Year features a story I have put off publishing for some time. But as this is the time of year when resolutions are made, I have boldly decided to put aside my misgivings and share with you this extraordinary tale that cannot...

MAN WITHOUT A SOUL

MAN WITHOUT A SOUL

Dec. 20 | There are things that refuse to leave my mind especially when society is bombarded from all sides by modern trends whose impact seems to reduce life to a struggle between the weak and the powerful. One of the things that helped me define honesty is the...

TRAPPED AT LIFE’S EMOTIONAL CROSS ROADS

TRAPPED AT LIFE’S EMOTIONAL CROSS ROADS

Dec. 13 | There is glaring evidence that the cross roads is the most confusing place to be especially if the bolts and nuts of the moral compass of society have loosened. In many the customary court cases it has become obvious that the younger generation have been...

BIG BOYS DO CRY

BIG BOYS DO CRY

Nov. 29 | The most striking thing about the middle-aged man that appeared at my kgotla early one morning was his confident and macho nature. It therefore came as something of a shock when he broke down and wept openly in front of me. The man whose name I learnt...

BLENDED FAMILIES

BLENDED FAMILIES

Nov. 22 | My casebook from the kgotla this week borrows a quote from legendary jazz maestro Champion Jack Dupree,who says in one of his songs: “When you marry a woman, you also marry their mother, their dog and their cats.” This can make the outcome quite complex...

CO-HABITATION – A PRIVILEDGE OR A RIGHT?

CO-HABITATION – A PRIVILEDGE OR A RIGHT?

Nov. 1 | Fairy tales (mainane) have long been part of a tradition in which sugarcoated children’s stories explore the dynamics of life’s intrigues. As I recount this week’s case from the kgotla I am reminded of the story of a girl who fell in love with a...

REPAIRING THE DAMAGE – AN END TO ‘TSHENYO’

REPAIRING THE DAMAGE – AN END TO ‘TSHENYO’

Oct. 25 | Over the years I have watched in anguish as society tip-toes around some destructive cultural practices.  And so inspired by the phrase, “What you don’t confront will confront you,” and its sister saying, “What you don’t confront you cannot...

MA MOSOJANE’S TRADITIONAL WISDOM THE GRATITUDE OF HAPPINNESS

MA MOSOJANE’S TRADITIONAL WISDOM THE GRATITUDE OF HAPPINNESS

Oct. 11 | Current divorce statistics indicate that modern marriages have a one in two prospect of survival. Balanced evenly between success and failure, holy wedlock is a challenging journey that brings on many changes. The person you were calling honey one day,...

CONSULTING A TRADITIONAL HEALER CAN SERIOUSLY DAMAGE YOUR MARRIAGE

CONSULTING A TRADITIONAL HEALER CAN SERIOUSLY DAMAGE YOUR MARRIAGE

Oct. 4 | When I first started my column two years ago people asked me why I was writing for the ‘Thokolosi’ paper as The Voice has sometimes been called. My answer was simple: “Because it is the country’s best selling newspaper and I want to reach as many...

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

Sep. 27 | Throughout history women have been thought of as the ‘weaker sex,’ and whilst this might be true in an arm wrestling contest, the fact is women have gained power that far exceeds issues of physical strength. The perception that women are powerless...

A TALE OF OUR TIMES

A TALE OF OUR TIMES

Sep. 20 | Over the years at the kgotla I have acquired the status of a village grandma or favourite aunt because traditionally young people trust such relatives with their innermost secrets. Although I may not have been able to solve all their problems, I provided...

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

THE STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

Aug. 27 | Throughout history women have been thought of as the ‘weaker sex,’ and whilst this might be true in an arm wrestling contest, the fact is women have gained power that far exceeds issues of physical strength. The perception that women are powerless...

ELUSIVE JUSTICE

ELUSIVE JUSTICE

Aug. 26 | A quick look at our ancestors’ life styles reveal that boys graduated from playing with mud cows to rearing real cows and using them to pay lobola. This rearing business meant they could also rear a wife or wives and have many children. That would...

THE RESERVED DUNG

THE RESERVED DUNG

Aug. 2 | There is a Setswana expression which goes “kgomo ga e ke ntsha boloko jotlhe”.  In real life it means that people will only divulge a certain amount of information and reserve that which they choose to keep. There are many reasons for this theory,...