I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost a year. I’m 32 and she is a 24-year-old mother of two girls aged four and six.
I’m in love with her and I love her daughters as well, but my parents don’t want to have anything to do with her because of her past.
I have tried talking to them but nothing will change their mind.
I simply can’t see my life without her. I don’t want to hurt my parents, who have done so much for me, but I don’t want to give her up.
What do you advise?
I guess that ideally we all want to meet someone who’s not only right for us, but who our family loves too – but that’s not always possible.
Your parents obviously have their reasons – I’m assuming it’s because your girlfriend has had two children at a young age – but you are a grown man now and it’s time for you to make your own decisions.
Tell your parents you love them and appreciate what they have done for you.
Emphasize that you don’t ever want to loose them, but it’s your life and you have to be allowed to live it as you choose.
You don’t say anything about her former partner, but I presume that that relationship is over and there are no strings still attached.
If that is the case I’m sure you’re thinking ahead to marriage and the complications that could potentially throw up.
No parent should want their kids to make a choice between them and the person they want to be with.
I for one would never want to risk loosing my children, even if I wasn’t completely happy with their choice of partner.
I assume you are not still living at home, so ask yourself this – if you give her up, what will you do?
Sit on your own while your parents are getting on with their lives?
If you truly love her and her daughters, then it’s your future together that you must prioritise.