Soliciting opinion from our 87 000 Facebook fans on their reaction to this week’s front-page story, we had over 800 replies within 24 hours of posting the question: “What are the duties of a wife and a husband?”
We include an edited selection from some of the comments that caught our eye. For the complete list check out our vibrant Facebook page and join the debate.
Dato El Professori Mogae: The primary reason for marrying is to legally have a reproduction partner – to preserve the family lineage. As humans are only a few of species that also copulate for pleasure, marriage affords u a partner to satisfy u in that regard….
Kebafentse Lota: This is the most patient guy I ever heard of – I wouldn’t. 2 months without sex would send me packing.
Kgosigadi Nthabiseng Jacobs-Motshegare: One of the causes why so many men are miserable and why so many marriages fail is because the woman is not out to help him, she’s using the marriage to help herself. She has a faulty view of the relationship. Instead of being his partner and coming alongside to increase their relationship with God, she becomes a part of the opposition, not cooperating with God’s agenda for the family, but using it as a launching pad for her own purposes.
Kopano Thabang Motsilenyane: The wife should fulfil her duties. Clean for the man, cook, wash his clothes and fulfil his desires behind closed doors – If not I would go and demand Lobola back. The lady failed in every aspect of marriage – surely u don’t wanna’ marry then masturbate, u can’t.
Troy Mirror Magosi: no sex no marriage its ur duty as a wife 2 give me sex.
Troy Mirror Magosi: 20 years?? This guy has regained his virginity wa go swela ko ngwaneng wa ga mang tota?
Lucas Segopa: Uhu? Why did she agree to marry him? Reasons for a go-ahead to marriage is the exquisiteness under the blankets. I have a feeling the poor man harboured some dreams to become a priest. No matter how we put it, lobola is the other way of saying-’NOW THOSE THIGHS ARE LEGALY MINE’ – the woman deserves to go to jail so that she experiences sex starvation herself.
Masego Busumane: The wife should be responsible enough to take care of her husband emotionally and sexually………indeed failure of those 2 can lead to divorce……………SEX creates a great bond between the two and what the wife expects if she can not satisfy the husband? That will definitely lead to adultery.
Chinemo Elias: You kidding right? Twenty years no sex whilst married? That woman was very wicked, I bet someone somewhere, somehow was servicing the machine…well he really deserve divorce, he was in his little prison, actually that woman used muti on him.
Oteng Oletile: Duties of a wife is to open up her legs and satisfy her hubby. As for cleaning there is a maid. so therz no need to keep mosadi yo o sa go feng ditshwanelo tsa gago
Sham Ranga: Sex is one reason why people leave their parents homes to stay together as husband and wife, it would be better and reasonable to divorce than cheating on each other which will lead to a waste of resources for the family.
Primrose B Ngwenya: Nna i dnt think this is true. 20yrs is a long time, why has he been silent all these yrs? There is something they are not telling us. This man should say d real reason they are divorcing not this.
Gofaone Pona Motlhanka: It’s simple, duties of a man and a woman in a relationship and marriage are to share anything they come across. Household chores to passion, hard work to leisure time etc.
Babachikz Mctlhanyane: He deserves better she is too selfish the Bible says a woman has to be submissive to her husband – this is nothing but cruelty and torture – she should be tried at the ICC (Hague) for a crime against humanity
Evans Kiriyoni: sex is the pillar of love, dat woman didn’t do her duties at al so a year was enough for the man to file for divorce.
Liz Mosadi Gaosoteope: marriage is sex – without it should b dissolved.
MmaNtinga Mottie Nkape: There is a big massive reason that led to the wife not doing her duties, women don’t do things without valid reasons. Maybe she wanted to be heard but the husband was too ignorant.
Benjamin Kun Mahoota Maute: If a woman refuses to have sex with the husband know that she is having it somewhere…that man did a good thing by divorcing her.
Gaone Daman Monyatsi: If that man managed to stay for 20 years, why can he divorce now? If he managed to stay that long, he can stay for a lifetime.
Marisa Wells: Everyone knows… She probably wasn’t giving it to him because he was getting it from somewhere or everywhere else! I want to hear her side of the story.
Gontse L. Monyatsi: Aah!! Abstainence at its best….20yrs
Headman Molaletsi: Sex is the HIGH priority in marriage, NO sex no marriage. Batho lantha ba kopanngwa ke thobalo, ga thobalo e fela lenyalo la fela.
Shakes Shima Bolokang: “Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.”
Willie PK Williem: Let her go home and learn how to cook and the styles of having sex
Cj Ramaeba: he did something awful to dat woman..she can’t js say no to sex. Something fishy wt the man.
Steven Othusitse Sebina: ha,ha,ha! What kind of a tale is this one? Unbelievable really!