MY WOMAN IS A CHEAT BUT I CAN’T LET HER GO
I have lost trust in this person I have shared my life with.
I found my girlfriend on a date during working hours with some guy next to her work place.
I had passed the place by chance and decided to call in to see her.
When I found out she was out with a guy I phoned to ask what was going on, but she just rung off.
Later shecalled and told me I should backoff.
She has now resorted to passing snide remarks and feels I should apologise even though I caught her red-handed on a date with another man.
They don’t care what I think or how I feel because they even said they’re fed up with me.
I can’t continue to live like that because this is the same person I once wrote to you about that she always leaves me for guys with money and big cars, and only returns to me when they dump her.
She often refuses to kiss or make love with me.
I want to quit the relationship because I feel I’m wasting my time.
But how do I forget about her when I love her so and am burning inside.
That girl really takes you for granted. It’s ridiculous that she expects you to apologise when she’s the one who has behaved badly.
I think you have been in this relationship all by yourself for a while now.
It’s very sad that you want to quit but can’t because you still love this person so much even after she has blatantly cheated on you on several occasions.
Have you ever gone for counselling?
I think you need to sit down with a counsellor and tell him/her your problem so that s/he can help you find a way forward as you cannot solve this problem by yourself; you need help.
Quitting the relationship is not going to be easy because you still love her – it will take some time for the pain to subside and eventually disappear.
Before then as she cannot solve this problem by yourself, you just need to find a way to minimise the pain and the stress with the help of a counsellor.
Please call Heart & Hands of Compassion (7351 6022) or Lifeline Botswana (391 1290).
The counsellor will help you weigh your options and you yourself will be able to come up with your best option.
SHE LOVES ME – SHE LOVES ME NOT
12 signs the woman you love may not feel the same way
Do you have a hunch you like your girlfriend more than she likes you?
Maybe she doesn’t like you at all and is merely using you because she is lonely, wants attention, wants to make other people jealous or just wants your money?
Here are 12 signs that the woman you are with might be using you.
1. YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO GO TO HER
If you want to see her you have to go to her house, or meet her with her friends wherever they are.
Or if she only wants to see you on her terms, possibly keeping you around just to boost her ego.
She won’t go to any venue you want to go to, just so she can see you
Why? Because you’re not the purpose—you’re just a perk!
2. SHE CANCELS ON YOU FOR SILLY THINGS
She cancels on you to watch re-runs of ‘Generations’.
That’s because you’re just a little toy who is around to make her happy, and today you’re not the toy she feels like playing with.
3. SHE DOESN’T KNOW YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY
It’s exhausting to put on a smile and try to make an impression for new people, not to mention listen to everything about them and get to know them.
Why would she put in that effort when she’s not that into you?
4. SHE’S NOT A GOOD LISTENER
When you’re talking to her about something you’re really interested in, or worried about, or excited about, she is clearly on another planet, playing with her phone or fixing her makeup and not paying any attention to little old you.
She’s not going to take on the added emotions of a person she doesn’t truly love. She has enough emotions of her own.
5. SHE FORGETS BIG THINGS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE
You tell her your team is going to be playing in the Mascom Top 8 final and on that day she asks you to take her shopping in Johannesburg.
Or you tell her your birthdate and she forgets to buy you a present on the day.
When someone loves you, they remember when big things are happening to you.
6. SHE DOESN’T ANSWER YOUR CALLS
If you are always calling her, only to get a response back days or weeks later, she’s not that into you.
When a woman is totally hooked, she can’t help but reach out to you to hear your voice, check up on you and see what you’re up to.
7. SHE NEVER GETS JEALOUS EVER
Think about it: if you went up and blatantly hit on another woman in front of your girlfriend, would she care?
If not, well…she probably would let you do whatever you wanted so long as you still did what she wanted you to do for her, or until she finds someone better equipped to do it.
8. YOU ONLY HAVE SEX WHEN SHE FEELS LIKE IT
When you’rereally feeling passionate or could use a good sessionunder the blankets after a long day, she will tell you she’s got a headache or has no energy.
But when she wants to have sex, maybe even waking you late at night after drinking with her friends, she gets sulky if you don’t give in.
9. SHE NEVER FEELS LIKE HAVING SEX
And here’s an even easier one.
If she never wants to have sex at all, and finds ridiculous reasons not to every single time – she’s just not into you.
10. SHE HAS GIRLS’ NIGHTS EVERY WEEKEND
She attends a baby shower every weekend; it’s supposedly a girls-only party; so she tells you that you can’t come along…but time and again, she and her friends enjoy these parties in the presence of certain male ‘gate-crashers’!
Girls’ nights may be just an excuse to dress up hot and get attention from other men.
But if you confront her about her flirting, she can always turn it on you and say you’re being obsessive.
11. SHE NEVER PAYS
You are both working, but it always you paying for things and treating her.
If she doesn’t even buy you a pair of socks for Christmas, there is a good chance she doesn’t care enough to bother.
12. SHE ALWAYS WANTS FRIENDS AROUND
Having friends around provides a buffer.
If the two of you were alone, you might just realize you have nothing in common, or that she’s just not very affectionate or nice to you.
A woman who really wants you, wants you to herself.