A jilted 23-year-old man was left angry, confused and holding the wedding ring alone after his wife to be decided not to turn up at the District Commissioner’s office to make their union official.
Botlhale Menyatso from Mochudi waited in vain after the woman of his dreams Cecelia Khani (28) failed to show up, with family members waiting in anticipation.
Narrating his ordeal to the Voice, Menyatso said they were supposed to officially get married on 16 November with the celebrations slated for 7 December.
“I called her after it became evident that she would not show up and she ignored my calls. When later she finally decided to take my calls she told me that her parents advised her not to go through with the wedding because we were marrying out of community of property. It was such a shock to me because it was something I thought were both clear on,” said Menyatso.
The young man who said he had already spent over P25 000 to pay for a venue, wedding rings, attire, food and entertainment, said that had it not been for the support from his pastor he would still be an emotional wreck.
“I wouldn’t say suicide did not cross my mind, but I found strength in my religious belief and killing yourself over someone did not sound like a wise thing to do,” he said.
Efforts to get a response from Khani were unsuccessful as her phone rang unanswered and she had not responded to a text message sent to her at the time of going to press.
According to Menyatso the two had known each other for at least two years before they decided to tie the knot. He said his chef girlfriend was a perfect partner until the day she failed to turn up for their big day.
“In fact getting married was her idea. She mentioned it once and I did not take her seriously and when she mentioned it for the second time, I thought why not, she was a perfect girl who wanted to settle down, but now I’m shocked that all that blew up in smoke for the simple reason of marrying out of community of property,” he said.
The distraught young man said Khani later called him to tell him that she wants out of the relationship.
“Now the whole thing is off, even the relationship. I’m done with women, if I marry it would be by the grace of God,” he said.
Menyatso who is a Programmes Officer said he now faces a daunting task of asking for refunds from the people.
“It is a big inconvenience for the people I had already paid and we are still trying to find a way of minimizing the losses for all involved,” he said.
The soft-spoken Menyatso said what is even more disappointing is the country’s legislation usually favours women on such issues.
“This thing happened during the 16 Days of Activism on Violence Against Women and Children. I was abused and dumped by a woman; had it been the other way round all fingers would be pointing at me as an irresponsible man,” he said.
Oct 10, 2014