Many women want to believe that behavior pre-relationship is not a sign of what a man’s behavior will be post-commitment – as if he just transforms into a new man once he takes on the title of ‘boyfriend.’
So if you’re thinking of getting into a relationship but are not sure about the risk factor involved – here are 10 early signs a guy will cheat, way before he even has the chance.
1) HE IS SECRETIVE ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS
If he won’t share details about his past relationships, odds are it’s because those details wouldn’t make him look very good.
If it were just a crazy ex, or a nasty breakup, he’d talk about it.
But when the storyteller is the antagonist in his own story, he’s usually not itching to share the details.
2) HE GETS A BAD REPORT FROM PAST GIRLFRIENDS
If he has one or two past girlfriends who hate his guts, that’s normal.
But if every single girl he’s ever dated would slash his tires given the chance, that’s no coincidence; the common denominator in all of those relationships is the guy.
And if he didn’t cheat on all of those women, he at least acted shady. The guy has to really mess up to be hated.
3) HE’S JUST A JEALOUS GUY
People usually fear the most what they know lives inside of them. A crazy jealous, suspicious and controlling man usually is so because he has first-hand proof that cheating happens…via himself.
The guy has odd reasons for you not to come to certain parties or get-togethers saying it is just work friends or you will get bored.
Buta guy that really likes you and isn’t up to anything shady wants you around! Even if you would be bored, he wants you there to keep him company!
But, if there is the potential to cheat, or even just act inappropriately with other women, he won’t want you there.
5) HE IS JUST TOO PASSIONATE
He is very romantic, he falls in love in a second, he has grand ideas of trips you’ll take together, and the kids you’ll have together, and you’ve only known each other for a few weeks.
This guy lets his heart (and probably something else) lead the way all the time! And somebody who believes whatever the heart says is someone who will often justify cheating with, “But it just felt so right at the time…
6) CONFLICTING STORIES
There are only two reasons a person’s stories shouldn’t match up: they are planning you a big surprise, or they are cheating.
At the very least, hanging out with another woman in a capacity that’s just not appropriate. But people don’t just forget where they’ve been all afternoon, or forget details of their week.
He also has a right to privacy, but it’s suspicious if he wants to invoke that right.
7) NO COMMITMENT
If a guy didn’t want to give up his freedom for months or even years, dragging you along in some sort of pseudo-relationship with unclear lines, he will either end the relationship quickly after it’s confirmed, make a terrible boyfriend, or cheat. It’s just that simple.
Don’t trust a man who you had to bully into committing to you.
8) STILL FRIENDS WITH BAD EXES
He is still friends with exes who he had terrible breakups with—breakups that involved screaming, constant fighting, atrocious acts, and perhaps even cheating.
There is only one reason a person remains friends (if you can call it that) with an ex that he has such a turbulent past with; there is something he still wants out of that person.
Whether it’s to make her jealous, or to make her love him again, in some way he still deeply care what that person thinks about him.
He’s still trying to win the battle that never really ended, just because the relationship did.
And that’s easy territory for cheating.
OK so you’ve just met and you’re not “technically” a couple yet, and so her reasons that it isn’t “technically” cheating if he sees or sleeps with other women during this time of limbo.
But the fact that he used that technicality to his advantage is not a good sign.
10) HE BUYS YOU LOTS OF PRESENTS
Sure every girl want to get spoilt but beware if he showers you with over the top expensive presents, constantly plans elaborate dates for the two of you, takes you on trips, and gets you a whole new wardrobe.
Men who saturate their women with monetary gifts often have some over the top possessive tendencies, and one is a mentality that they “own” their women.
And when a man has that mentality, he usually thinks it’s okay to cheat