A 33- year- old woman’s dream of uniting with her biological father was recently shattered when the man unceremoniously backed down on their appointment.
Mavis Sibanda, whose mother originates from Kezi village in Zimbabwe was thrilled after getting a hint of her father’s whereabouts, but her joy was short lived as the man she spent almost her life yearning to meet suddenly gave her a cold shoulder.
While Bageletse Lesu admits to be Sibanda’s dad, the man who works for a Funeral Parlour in Francistown has declared that he is not interested in meeting his first born daughter who is already married.
Although he earlier on agreed to meet his child, the Bobonong born man later changed his mind explaining that the money he paid as damage charges after impregnating Sibanda’s mother long back was enough.
Heartbroken Mavis who is married in Ramakgwebana village said she was raised by her grandmother in Zimbabwe and only came to Botswana in search for her father.
“I came here to Botswana to search for him. When I did not find him I decided to find some work, ending up getting married to a local man in Ramakgwebana village. Early this year I got wind that my father’s relatives were in Bobonong. Without wasting anytime I travelled all the way to Bobonong where I was welcomed by an uncle who also gave me my dad’s contacts,” she said.
When she contacted him over the phone Lesu seemed to be excited and agreed to meet her in Francistown but later changed his mind a day before the arranged reunion, explaining that he doesn’t want anything to do with her.
“I am just disappointed and confused as to why my father doesn’t want to meet me. I am shocked at his cruelty towards me but I still have a strong belief that his actions were not deliberate. May be my sudden coming into picture might have created a personal problem for him.”
The self employed mother of two said all she wants is see her father face to face at least once in life. Devastated Sibanda said: “As a grown up married person I am not asking for any financial support from my dad apart from just meeting him and knowing my roots but for the man to turn his back on me is a very great embarrassment in life.”
She said her father and mum who was now staying with another man, met in SelibePhikwe some years ago resulting in her birth in 1979. After the couple’s relationship soured before she was even born, her mum had to send her to Zimbabwe as a toddler where she was raised by her grandmother. It was after the death of her grandmother that Sibanda came to Botswana to trace her roots.
Contacted for a comment Bafeletse Lesu admitted that indeed Sibanda was his child but said he was no interested in meeting her.
“Yes she is my child but what does she want from me now. I paid damage to her mother’s family long back long back so what does she want. I don’t want anything to do with her. If she thinks I will help her get an Omang, she should forget,” he said.
The man who stays in Monarch location of Francistown told The Voice that he currently lives with another woman their six children adding that he does not want any trouble from Sibanda.