• BDF Soldiers sexcapades revealed
• Sex starved wives break the silence
• Shocked that husbands buy and sell sex
Sex starved army wives break the silence,learn soldiers buy and sell sex
Revelations of how BDF soldiers were not only top buyers of sex in Selebi-Phikwe but also sold sex amongst themselves left many army wives shocked at an HIV/AIDS workshop recently.
The soldiers sex skeletons came tumbling out of the army closet when the Commanding Officer for 54 signals regiment, Lieutenant Colonel Morwadi Kgwatalala answered a question from a frustrated army wife during the Eastern Military Garrison (EMG) workshop for women’s club in Selebi-Phikwe last week.
Responding to the worried wife who wanted to know why soldiers liked buying sex so much, Lieutenant Colonel Morwadi Kgwatalala said: “You’re surprised at that. That compared to what we are grappling with in the army is nothing. Last year the commander (Lieutenant General Tebogo Masire) informed us that a report had shown that some male officers were actually selling sex to their colleagues during their long trips out in the bush. This is a more complex situation than what you are talking about.’
The question why soldiers patronised sex workers the most arose after a “Silence Kills” programme officer who was representing District AIDS committee, Boitumelo Kopano had revealed that a study done in Phikwe had indicated that soldiers were amongst the top loyal customers of sex workers.
The workshop organized by Population Concern International to equip EMG women’s club with information on HIV/AIDS, gender awareness and gender based violence ended up providing a platform for frustrated army wives to break the silence on the abuse and neglect they suffered from their husbands in their bedrooms.
Many complained that they were starved of sex and affection as their husbands seemed distant and uninterested every time they returned from military trips.
“When they come back they just have sexual intercourse without foreplay. It’s like being raped by our own husbands. It is so bad and tempting us to look elsewhere for love,’’ said a delegate who was fully supported by other soldier’s wives.
Another sexually frustrated wife even revealed how she tried to use pornographic videos to spice up her sex life without success.
In yet another startling revelation the wives told the BDF commander that their husbands refuse to go for HIV/AIDS testing with them, claiming they are tested every time they go away on three months long trips.
Refuting that claim senior officer Major Masilo said: “That is not true at all we do not test them. They would be lying to you. We only know about their status when they do not want to carry out a certain duty and then they are keen to bring their results as a mitigation factor.”
The army wives also expressed concern about raising children in the barracks with new recruits whom they said posed a risk to their daughters.
“Many of the new recruits are young and when they see our daughters they entice them to engage in illicit sex. This is common especially here at EMG,” said one of the delegates.
Asked to comment on Lieutenant Colonel Morwadi Kgwatalala ‘s allegations of rife male prostitution in the army, the BDF mouthpiece Colonel Sharp denied that his boss made such statements.
Below is his full response
“HOMOSEXUALITY IS A MENACE”
“To put the record straight, the Commander was quoted out of context because he has never said that, and the BDF does not have proof of such practices. Contrary to your reporting, Lt Col Kgwatalala did not say some soldiers are selling, but rather said some soldiers might be selling. During his address, the Commander cautioned the troops that of late there is a trend of sexual immorality creeping into the nation and he warned the troops to guard against getting involved in such practices. Please note that homosexuality is a menace that affects not only the nation of Botswana, but the world over, therefore the topic cannot be discussed at the exclusion of the BDF because it happens in the society that BDF members live in.” Colonel Sharp said in a written statement.