The use of sex toys
A 17-year-old American singer and television star ruffled feathers in her home country recently when she revealed that she was ‘into’ sex toys.
Taylor Momsen’s admission that she used a vibrator caused an outcry amongst many religious leaders, saying that she was a bad role model for young girls, and was doomed to failure. But the youngster had the backing of her father who said: “Most of us don’t really like to think about our kids’ sex lives, but seriously, isn’t using a vibrator much preferable to the alternatives?”
Instead of being a failure the opposite is more likely to be true as girls who use a vibrator are less likely to get pregnant, or get a disease, and are more likely to wait to have actual sexual intercourse. They are also much more likely to learn how their bodies work, so when they do have sex they can fully appreciate the pleasures it can bring.
Although it’s not a common topic from the pulpit, most people accept that young boys masturbate. It’s discussed in movies and alluded to in pop songs, but somehow the thought of girls having a “need for release” is naughty and wrong and shouldn’t be discussed.
The fact is, scientific studies show that having an orgasm has many health benefits, and repressing these needs may be physically harmful. Most young men can’t suppress them, as they will have nocternal emissions if they refrain too long from masturbation. For girls it’s a little different, and much more troubling. The frustration and the lust build up and the need for release can push them to do foolish things. But if a girl knows she can please herself, and she does it regularly, the urge to be with a guy won’t be as strong, and she can be more rational when choosing her sex partners.
A sex toy is an object or device that is primarily used to facilitate human sexual pleasure. The most popular sex toys are designed to resemble human genitals and may be vibrating or non-vibrating
These devices with the vibrator being the most common, are now very common in first world countries and are gaining popularity in neighbouring South Africa, where they are openly sold, although restricted to over-18’s.
Coming closer to home these devices still seem to be shrouded in secrecy, with many assuming that they are actually banned in Botswana. Traditionally sex is not something that is openly talked about, so there is little discussion on the topic.
The advantages of sex toys as health aids in a country ravaged by HIV are obvious, so it would be wrong to see them as a bad influence. Getting clarification of the legal situation proved problematic, as neither the Ministry of Trade nor the Department of Customs seemed to have a policy on the matter, despite reports that sex toys have been confiscated at the border.
When pressed on the matter, police spokesman Christopher Mbulawa confirmed that it was not an offence to be in possession of sex toys, but was not sure about the position regarding the sale of such items.
Medically these devices have no harmful side effects if used properly and are ‘not abused.’ Confirming this Doctor William Bethuel of Jobert
Medical Centre in Mochudi added: “In this era of HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, sex toys could be a better option.’’ However according to pastor John Phillip of the Independent Assemblies of Botswana, sex toys should never be encouraged in Botswana as they go against the norms and values of our society.
“Botswana has been influenced by other foreign cultures and we must not allow this one of sex toys to come into our lives,’’ he said.
As a man of the cloth, Pastor Phillip says he believes in marriage, as it is an institution where natural sex should be enjoyed and thus should be encouraged instead of using sex toys.
“ Human beings tend to easily get attached to something and the moment we encourage these sex toys people might get attached to them, something which might make it difficult for people to get close to each other,’’ he said.
Some benefits of sex toys:
- You can’t get Aids or pregnant from a sex toy.
- Unlike many males, they don’t stop when they’ve had enough, only when the battery runs out.
- There’s no disputing that orgasms feel good, and sex toys help you have better, stronger, longer orgasms.
- Sex Toys are fun and can and can add a bit of zest to a relationship and keep things from getting dull. Using a sex toy together can bring you closer, and sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.
- Sex Toys Make Sex Better as many women have difficulty achieving orgasms unless they receive clitoral stimulation, which can be difficult to manage during intercourse. Also, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like. Sex toys can help in both of those situations. They can also enhance a perfectly good lovemaking session, adding just enough “oomph” to turn a great experience into an outstanding one.